The best way to find the ideal datagram size is to do exactly what TCP itself does to find the ideal packet size: Path MTU discovery.
TCP also has a widely used option where both sides tell the other what their MSS (basically, MTU minus headers) is.
The best way to find the ideal datagram size is to do exactly what TCP itself does to find the ideal packet size: Path MTU discovery.
TCP also has a widely used option where both sides tell the other what their MSS (basically, MTU minus headers) is.