You want to use DateTime.ToString(format) not Nullable<DateTime>.ToString(no overload):
DateTime? myDate = form.dteStartDate;
string sqlFormattedDate = myDate.Value.ToString("yyyy-MM-dd HH:mm:ss");
Of course this doesn’t handle the case that there is no value. Perhaps something like this:
string sqlFormattedDate = myDate.HasValue
? myDate.Value.ToString("yyyy-MM-dd HH:mm:ss")
: "<not available>";