Is it
constexpr char * const my_str = "hello";
No, because a string literal is not convertible to a pointer to char. (It used to be prior to C++11, but even then the conversion was deprecated).
or
const char * constexpr my_str = "hello";
No. constexpr cannot go there.
This would be well formed:
constexpr const char * my_str = "hello";
but it does not satify this:
So that i will be able to get its length at compile-time with sizeof, etc.
or
constexpr char my_str [] = "hello";
This is well formed, and you can indeed get the length at compile time with sizeof. Note that this size is the size of the array, not the length of the string i.e. the size includes the null terminator.