How do I check particular attributes exist or not in XML?

You can actually index directly into the Attributes collection (if you are using C# not VB):

foreach (XmlNode xNode in nodeListName)
{
  XmlNode parent = xNode.ParentNode;
  if (parent.Attributes != null
     && parent.Attributes["split"] != null)
  {
     parentSplit = parent.Attributes["split"].Value;
  }
}