Using a std::unordered_set of std::unique_ptr

You can also use a deleter that optionally doesn’t do anything.

template<class T>
struct maybe_deleter{
  bool _delete;
  explicit maybe_deleter(bool doit = true) : _delete(doit){}

  void operator()(T* p) const{
    if(_delete) delete p;
  }
};

template<class T>
using set_unique_ptr = std::unique_ptr<T, maybe_deleter<T>>;

template<class T>
set_unique_ptr<T> make_find_ptr(T* raw){
    return set_unique_ptr<T>(raw, maybe_deleter<T>(false));
}

// ...

int* raw = new int(42);
std::unordered_set<set_unique_ptr<int>> myset;
myset.insert(set_unique_ptr<int>(raw));

auto it = myset.find(make_find_ptr(raw));

Live example.