In RSpec 3 you can setup multiple conditions at once (so the single expectation rule is not broken). It would look sth like:
expect {
click_button 'Save'
@user.reload
}.to change { @user.name }.from('donald').to('gustav')
.and change { @user.updated_at }.by(4)
.and change { @user.great_field }.by_at_least(23}
.and change { @user.encrypted_password }
It is not a complete solution though – as far as my research went there is no easy way to do and_not yet. I am also unsure about your last check (if it doesn’t matter, why test it?). Naturally you should be able to wrap it within your custom matcher.