The trick is to combine an IntrinsicHeight widget and a Row with crossAxisAlignment: CrossAxisAlignment.stretch
This force the children of Row to expand vertically, but Row will take the least amount of vertical space possible.
Card(
child: IntrinsicHeight(
child: Row(
crossAxisAlignment: CrossAxisAlignment.stretch,
children: <Widget>[
Container(
width: 20.0,
color: Colors.amber,
),
// Expanded(...)
],
),
)
)