how to refresh JSESSIONID cookie after login

Question

You will not refresh after but just before. When executing the login action first do:

HttpSession session = request.getSession(false);
if (session!=null && !session.isNew()) {
    session.invalidate();
}

Then do:

HttpSession session = request.getSession(true); // create the session
// do the login (store the user in the session, or whatever)

FYI what you are solving with this trick is http://www.owasp.org/index.php/Session_Fixation

Lastly you can disable automatic session creation and only create the session when you really need it. If you use JSP you do that by:

<%@page contentType="text/html"
        pageEncoding="UTF-8"
        session="false"%>