Assuming Go maps are ~O(1), here is an ~O(n) difference function that works on unsorted slices.
// difference returns the elements in `a` that aren't in `b`.
func difference(a, b []string) []string {
mb := make(map[string]struct{}, len(b))
for _, x := range b {
mb[x] = struct{}{}
}
var diff []string
for _, x := range a {
if _, found := mb[x]; !found {
diff = append(diff, x)
}
}
return diff
}