EDIT: See other answers for the newer ways to view UDIDs for CoreSimulator-based simulators.
instruments -s devicesxcrun simctl list- From Xcode: Window -> Devices and Simulators -> Simulators.
TheIdentifiervalue is the UDID.
From 2011:
Is the iPhone Simulator UDID unique for each installed instance?
This answer should be what you want. Look at System Profiler on your mac and the id is there. I just tested on my machine and the IDs match.
This is the exact Terminal command you can enter to view it:
system_profiler SPHardwareDataType