First / last visible child depends on the LayoutManager.
If you are using LinearLayoutManager or GridLayoutManager, you can use
int findFirstVisibleItemPosition();
int findFirstCompletelyVisibleItemPosition();
int findLastVisibleItemPosition();
int findLastCompletelyVisibleItemPosition();
For example:
GridLayoutManager layoutManager = ((GridLayoutManager)mRecyclerView.getLayoutManager());
int firstVisiblePosition = layoutManager.findFirstVisibleItemPosition();
For LinearLayoutManager, first/last depends on the adapter ordering. Don’t query children from RecyclerView; LayoutManager may prefer to layout more items than visible for caching.