None of these will allow you to compile PHP with cURL enabled.
In order to compile with cURL, you need libcurl header files (.h files). They are usually found in /usr/include/curl. They generally are bundled in a separate development package.
Per example, to install libcurl in Ubuntu:
sudo apt-get install libcurl4-gnutls-dev
Or CentOS:
sudo yum install curl-devel
Then you can just do:
./configure --with-curl # other options...
If you compile cURL manually, you can specify the path to the files without the lib or include suffix. (e.g.: /usr/local if cURL headers are in /usr/local/include/curl).