If you have a window handle for the form (from the COM DLL) then you can disable visual styles on that form using the Win32 API:
SetWindowTheme( hwnd, "", "" );
I believe you’ll have to P/Invoke the API. Here’s the definition:
[DllImport("uxtheme.dll", ExactSpelling=true, CharSet=CharSet.Unicode)]
public static extern int SetWindowTheme(
IntPtr hWnd,
String pszSubAppName,
String pszSubIdList);