<RelativeLayout android:id="@+id/rl" ...
In your code:
// get your outer relative layout
RelativeLayout rl = (RelativeLayout) findById(R.id.rl);
// inflate content layout and add it to the relative layout as second child
// add as second child, therefore pass index 1 (0,1,...)
LayoutInflater layoutInflater = (LayoutInflater)
this.getSystemService(Context.LAYOUT_INFLATER_SERVICE);
rl.addView(1, layoutInflater.inflate(R.layout.content_layout, this, false) );