I know this question is a bit older but meanwhile a new way to achieve this was introduced in Symfony 2.4.
Matching Expressions
For an ajax restriction it would look like this:
contact:
path: /contact
defaults: { _controller: AcmeDemoBundle:Main:contact }
condition: "request.isXmlHttpRequest()"
Also possible in Annotation:
/**
* ContactAction
*
* @Route("/contact", name="contact", condition="request.isXmlHttpRequest()")
*/