To answer your first question, there are no hard and fast rules for this. So it is not a must to update your WIX bundle version and match that with your MSI version.
As for the second question, am not really sure. But you can try this binder variable:
!(bind.packageVersion.PackageID)
EDIT replace PackageID
with the element “ID” attribute of the program that you are installing. Something like: Version="!(bind.packageVersion.MyAppName)"
<MsiPackage SourceFile="SomePath\MyAppName.msi" Id="MyAppName"/>
as mentioned in this POST. Also check the WIX documentation for more binder variables.
EDIT 5/11/2017 – looks like there was confusion around what the packageID should be and I have edited the answer based on Bob Lutz answer below.