ARKit SKVideoNode Playing on Render

Ok. So here is a fix. see renderer(_:updateAtTime:).

var player: AVPlayer!
var play = true

@objc func tap(_ recognizer: UITapGestureRecognizer){
    if play{
        play = false
        player.pause()
    }else{
        play = true
        player.play()
    }
}

func setVideo() -> SKScene{
    let size = CGSize(width: 500, height: 500)
    let skScene = SKScene(size: size)

    let videoURL = Bundle.main.url(forResource: "video.mp4", withExtension: nil)!
    player = AVPlayer(url: videoURL)

    skScene.scaleMode = .aspectFit

    videoSpriteNode = SKVideoNode(avPlayer: player)
    videoSpriteNode.position = CGPoint(x: size.width/2, y: size.height/2)
    videoSpriteNode.size = size
    videoSpriteNode.yScale = -1
    skScene.addChild(videoSpriteNode)

    player.play()

    return skScene
}

func renderer(_ renderer: SCNSceneRenderer, didAdd node: SCNNode, for anchor: ARAnchor) {
    if let image = anchor as? ARImageAnchor{
        print("found")

        let planeGeometry = SCNPlane(width: image.referenceImage.physicalSize.width, height: image.referenceImage.physicalSize.height)
        let plane = SCNNode(geometry: planeGeometry)
        planeGeometry.materials.first?.diffuse.contents = setVideo()

        plane.transform = SCNMatrix4MakeRotation(-.pi/2, 1, 0, 0)

        node.addChildNode(plane)
    }
}

func renderer(_ renderer: SCNSceneRenderer, updateAtTime time: TimeInterval) {
    if !play{
        player.pause()
    }
}

Use this idea in your code.