Is there a command to test an SQL query without executing it? ( MySQL or ANSI SQL )

The only thing I know of is to wrap it in a transaction that is always rolled back:

BEGIN TRANSACTION

DELETE FROM user WHERE somekey = 45;

ROLLBACK TRANSACTION

Make sure you execute the entire block and not just the delete statement. Also, DO NOT run this on any production environment or any system where you cannot afford to lose the data.